1 Corinthians 13:4
Eleven years ago this very week, by chance, I met my husband.
Today, six years ago, we were married. I was a mere girl of 23 years old, and he was 27.
I honestly do not think that when we made a commitment to each other, in front of our friends, family, and God, to stick together and love each other through good and bad, thick and thin, that we had any idea what we were getting ourselves into.
That’s the thing about marriage. The unknown. You stand before another person, and promise them your life, and you don’t have any idea what life is going to throw at you. We certainly didn’t.
Our marriage has been tested. Dragged through extreme sadness and loss, and raised up to the highest heights of happiness. To be more than honest, there was very dark period of time that we weren’t going to make it.
Somehow, we did make it. Somehow, we stayed true to the young kids we were a few years ago, who stood on the altar dressed in their wedding best, and upheld our promises to each other. It has not been easy. At times it has been the hardest thing in the world to do. You know what? No one said marriage would be easy.
Every single day we keep making the choice to love each other…
After too many failed pregnancies, when it looked like we wouldn’t be able to have a child of our own…we still choose each other.
After our son, Max, was stillborn…we still choose each other.
After disagreements and differences in opinion…we still choose each other.
Through large weight fluctuations and changes in our physical appearances…we still choose each other.
After the births of our children…we still choose each other.
Every single day, that man that I am so lucky to call my husband, keeps getting in his car, after working long days to provide for our family, and drives on the roads that lead him back home.
Every single day he puts his key into the lock of our front door, turns it, and chooses to walk into our crazy little home, to two little boys and me, his wife. His very thankful, blessed, and lucky wife. I’m happy he chooses me, because I couldn’t think of a better man that I could have chosen to share this life with.
Happy Anniversary.
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| Quote: Sherman Alexie, “The Toughest Indian in the World” |
Edited (3/16/15) to add that this post has been re-shared as part of my month-long March Marriage Challenge series. Stop by for lots of marriage inspiration from lots of other fabulous bloggers.
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Awww beautifully written! You have me in tears. God bless you always
I love this! Especially the part about your husband making choices every single day "Every single day he puts his key into the lock of our front door, turns it, and chooses to walk into our crazy little home, to two little boys and me, his wife. His very thankful, blessed, and lucky wife. I'm happy he chooses me, because I couldn't think of a better man that I could have chosen to
Happy Anniversary-what a wonderful story! I have been married for almost 23 yrs now to a wonderful man that I met in grade school (could not stand him then) who has pursued me daily since the first day we met! Enjoy your special day and the many still to come 🙂
So sweet, happy anniversary to you both and may you have many more happy years together!
Love your post. 'That was the thing' caught my eye because it is one of my favourite phrase. Corny, I know. And the thing is, it doesn't get any easier as you get older. Just ask me. 🙂 I have to make a conscious effort to choose my actions every day. I applaud you guys.
That's how I feel about my husband. 🙂 We will be married 9 years next month!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years, so I think we will have somewhat of a better idea of 'what we are in for' than most couples are when they get married but its still scary to think about the 'what ifs' and the dark times. For example, nobody plans to deal with infertility or a miscarriage, stillbirth, loss of a child, etc. I can see how experiences like those can
Thank you for sharing this. You are so right that marriage can be so up and down at times. It’s very hard to know what’s coming your way when you said “I do” but that’s the beauty of marriage. You are so right that we choose each other ever day…
I love that you use the word “choose” throughout this because every second of a marriage truly is about making the choice to stick it out and stick together. I think every relationship, despite how long it’s lasted or what stage it’s in, has had plenty of moments where the choice could have been made to leave but the relationships that last are not those that are rosy and perfect, but those in which both people constantly choose one another and their life together.
Beautiful in so many ways. thanks for sharing! 🙂